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Positive Thinking Through Self talk

s you received.

  • Personalizing. When something bad occurs, you automatically blame yourself. For example, you hear that an evening out with friends is canceled and you assume that the change in plans is because no one wanted to be around you.

  • Catastrophizing. You automatically anticipate the worst. You refuse to go out with friends for fear that you'll make a fool of yourself. Or one change in your daily routine leads you to think the entire day will be a disaster.
  • Polarizing. You see things only as good or bad, black or white. There is no middle ground. You feel that you have to be perfect or that you're a total failure.

You can learn positive thinking
Instead of giving in to negative self-talk, weed out misconceptions and irrational thinking and then challenge them with rational, positive thoughts. When you do this, your self-talk will gradually become realistic and self-affirming — you engage in positive thinking.
You can learn to turn negative think…

Want Allah to Forgive You? Forgive Others

By Sheikh Salman al-Oudah

If we want Allah to forgive us, we should be forgiving of others and willing to overlook their wrongs. This is part of what it means to be good to others. Allah describes his believing servants as 

"those who restrain their anger and are pardoning towards people." He then says: "Indeed, Allah loves those who do good." [Noble Quran 3:134]

Indeed, Allah says:

"And let not those of you who possess wealth and abundance swear against giving to the near of kin and the poor and those who have had to emigrate for Allah's sake. They should forgive and forebear. Do you not love that Allah should forgive you? And Allah is Forgiving, Merciful." [Noble Quran 24:22]

Righteous deeds of all kinds bring us closer to Allah, but especially kindness to others. We should show kindness to all creatures as well as to human beings, whether this kindness comes in the form of our personal behavior, our sharing of our wealth, giving assistance wit…

Sixty Tips From Quran

1. Respect and Honour All Human Beings irrespective Of Their Religion, Colour, Race, Sex, Language, Status, Property, Birth, Profession / Job And So On [17/70]
2. Talk Straight, To The Point, Without Any Ambiguity Or Deception[33/70]
3. Choose Best Words To Speak And Say Them in The Best Possible Way [17/53, 2/83]
4. Do Not Shout. Speak Politely Keeping Your Voice Low. [31/19]
5. Always Speak The Truth. Shun Words That Are Deceitful And Ostentatious [22/30]
6. Do Not Confound Truth With Falsehood[2/42] 7. Say With Your Mouth What is in Your Heart [3/167]
8. Speak in A Civilised Manner in A Language That is Recognised By The Society And is Commonly Used [4/5]
9. When You Voice An Opinion, Be Just, Even if it is Against A Relative [6/152]
10. Do Not Be A Bragging Boaster [31/18]
11. Do Not Talk, Listen Or Do Anything Vain [23/3, 28/55]
12. Do Not Participate in Any Paltry. If You Pass Near A Futile Play, Then Pass By With Dignity [25/72]
13. Do Not Verge Upon Any immodesty Or Lewdness Whether Sur…