Reactive and Response Modes

In life, we have essentially two psychological modes that we are in most of the time: reactive and responsive. The reactive mode is the one that feels stressful. In it, we feel pressured and are quick to judge. We lose perspective and take things personally. We're annoyed, bothered, and frustrated.

Needless to say, our judgment and decision making capacity is severely impaired when we are in a reactive state of mind. We make quick decisions that we often regret. We annoy other people and tend to bring out the worst in them. When an opportunity knocks, we are usually too overwhelmed or frustrated to see it. If we do see it, we're usually overly critical and negative.
source: unknwon
The responsive mode, on the other hand, is our most relaxed state of mind. Being responsive suggests that we have our bearings. We see the bigger picture and take things less personally. Rather than being rigid and stubborn, we are flexible and calm. In the responsive mode, we are at our best. We bring out the best in others and solve problems gracefully. When an opportunity comes our way, our mind is open. We are receptive to new ideas.

Once you are aware of these two drastically different modes of being. You will begin to notice which one you are in. You'll also notice the predictability of your behavior and feelings when you are in each mode. You'll observe yourself being irrational and negative in your reactive mode and calm and wise in your responsive state of mind

The 5 Qualities of Remarkable Bosses

Consistently do these five things and the results you want from your employees--and your business--will follow.
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Remarkable bosses aren’t great on paper. Great bosses are remarkable based on their actions.

Results are everything—but not the results you might think.
Consistently do these five things and everything else follows. You and your business benefit greatly.

More importantly, so do your employees.

1. Develop every employee. Sure, you can put your primary focus on reaching targets, achieving results, and accomplishing concrete goals—but do that and you put your leadership cart before your achievement horse.
Without great employees, no amount of focus on goals and targets will ever pay off. Employees can only achieve what they are capable of achieving, so it’s your job to help all your employees be more capable so they—and your business—can achieve more.
It's your job to provide the training, mentoring, and opportunities your employees need and deserve. When you do, you transform the relatively boring process of reviewing results and tracking performance into something a lot more meaningful for your employees: Progress, improvement, and personal achievement.
So don’t worry about reaching performance goals. Spend the bulk of your time developing the skills of your employees and achieving goals will be a natural outcome.
Plus it’s a lot more fun.

2. Deal with problems immediately. Nothing kills team morale more quickly than problems that don't get addressed. Interpersonal squabbles, performance issues, feuds between departments... all negatively impact employee motivation and enthusiasm.
And they're distracting, because small problems never go away. Small problems always fester and grow into bigger problems. Plus, when you ignore a problem your employees immediately lose respect for you, and without respect, you can't lead.
Never hope a problem will magically go away, or that someone else will deal with it. Deal with every issue head-on, no matter how small.

3. Rescue your worst employee. Almost every business has at least one employee who has fallen out of grace: Publicly failed to complete a task, lost his cool in a meeting, or just can’t seem to keep up. Over time that employee comes to be seen by his peers—and by you—as a weak link.

While that employee may desperately want to “rehabilitate” himself, it's almost impossible. The weight of team disapproval is too heavy for one person to move.
But it’s not too heavy for you.

Before you remove your weak link from the chain, put your full effort into trying to rescue that person instead. Say, "John, I know you've been struggling but I also know you're trying. Let's find ways together that can get you where you need to be." Express confidence. Be reassuring. Most of all, tell him you'll be there every step of the way.
Don't relax your standards. Just step up the mentoring and coaching you provide.
If that seems like too much work for too little potential outcome, think of it this way. Your remarkable employees don’t need a lot of your time; they’re remarkable because they already have these qualities. If you’re lucky, you can get a few percentage points of extra performance from them. But a struggling employee has tons of upside; rescue him and you make a tremendous difference.
Granted, sometimes it won't work out. When it doesn't, don't worry about it.  The effort is its own reward.

And occasionally an employee will succeed—and you will have made a tremendous difference in a person's professional and personal life.
Can’t beat that.

4. Serve others, not yourself. You can get away with being selfish or self-serving once or twice... but that's it.
Never say or do anything that in any way puts you in the spotlight, however briefly. Never congratulate employees and digress for a few moments to discuss what you did.
If it should go without saying, don't say it. Your glory should always be reflected, never direct.
When employees excel, you and your business excel. When your team succeeds, you and your business succeed. When you rescue a struggling employee and they become remarkable, remember they should be congratulated, not you.
You were just doing your job the way a remarkable boss should.
When you consistently act as if you are less important than your employees—and when you never ask employees to do something you don’t do—everyone knows how important you really are.

5. Always remember where you came from. See an autograph seeker blown off by a famous athlete and you might think, “If I was in a similar position I would never do that.”
Oops. Actually, you do. To some of your employees, especially new employees, you are at least slightly famous. You’re in charge. You’re the boss.
That's why an employee who wants to talk about something that seems inconsequential may just want to spend a few moments with you.
When that happens, you have a choice. You can blow the employee off... or you can see the moment for its true importance: A chance to inspire, reassure, motivate, and even give someone hope for greater things in their life. The higher you rise the greater the impact you can make—and the greater your responsibility to make that impact.
In the eyes of his or her employees, a remarkable boss is a star.
Remember where you came from, and be gracious with your stardom.

Relationship With Parents.

1. Never be disrespectful to parents. Do not say a harsh word to them.

2. Even if parents are unjust, it is not lawful for children to ill-treat, disobey or displease them.

3. Obey them in all lawful things. If they instruct you to do anything which is unlawful in the Shariah, then politely and with respect and apology decline. Never refuse rudely nor argue with them.

4. When parents abuse, scold or even beat their children, they should submit to such treatment with humility. Never should they utter a word af disrespect or complaint, nor should they display on their faces any indication of disgust or anger. Bear their treatment in silence and with patience. Make dua for them.

5. Assist them in all lawful ways even if they happen to be non-Muslims.

6. Whenever you see them, greet them.

7. If you are living with them, take their permission before

8. If you are engaged in Nafl Salaat and your parents call you, break your Salaat and answer their call even if there is no urgency or importance in their call. If you are performing Fardh Salaat and you detect urgency in theircall, then break even the Fardh Salaat to answertheir call.

9. Do not call them on their names. Address them with a title of respect and honour.

10. After their death, make Dua-e-Maghfirat for them. Pray for their forgiveness and within your means, practisevirtuous deeds with the intention of the thawaab thereof being bestowed on them by Allah Ta'ala.

11. Pay the debts of your parents.

12. If they had made any lawful wasiyyat (bequest), fulfil it if you are by the means to do so.

13. Be kind, respectful and helpful to the friends of your parents.

14. When entering the private room of parents, seek their permission before entering.

15. Always be cheerful in their presence.

16. Speak kindly and tenderly with them.

17. When speaking to parents, keep your gaze low. Do not stare them in the face.

18. Do not raise your voice above the voices of your parents.

19. Be humble in their presence.

20. When accompanying parents on a walk, do not walk in front of them nor on their right or left side. Walk slightly behind them.

21. Even in their absence speak highly and respectfully of them.

22. Do not give preference to the wife over them (this does not apply to the rights of the wife). Where parents instruct their son to violate or discard the obligatory rights of his wife, it will not be permissible to obey them in this case. – Transla tors).

23. Always endeavour to keep them happy.

24. Do not embark on a journey without their permission.

25. When they question you, do not inconvenience them by delaying your reply.

26. It is highly disrespectful to refrain from answering them.

27. If at any time you were disrespectful to your parents, regret your action and hasten to obtain their pardon

Crazy Things you can do with your iPhone

Well here are a few crazy things you could do with aniPhone.
1. Monitor your Heart Rate


The Heart Fitness app claims that it can effectively monitor your heart rate using only your iPhone. How in the world is that possible?
To accomplish this feat, the app takes advantage of both the camera and the bright LED on the back of your iPhone 4. First, you cover the light and the camera with your index finger. The light then illuminates your finger so that the camera reads that reddish color that results when you stick a flashlight up to your finger.
Here’s where the magic happens. As blood is pumped into your finger, the hue pulses. The camera reads this pulse and uses it to measure your heart rate! Pure voodoo right? Perhaps not. I tested the app on myself a few times and consistently came up with a measurement around 70BPM, which I confirmed by taking my own pulse manually. Then I got up and ran around for a while and used the app again, over 100BPM this time. As crazy as it sounds, it seems to work!
Now, many commenters note that they can get readings from every day items such as ketchup bottles, but this doesn’t prove anything. If you consider that the app reads pulses in color, pointing your camera at something red combined with camera-shake would produce a similar result. This proves that you can trick the app, but not that it doesn’t do what it claims.

2. Scan Documents



You know that your iPhone has a camera on it, so it’s no surprise that it can take a photo of a document right? The problem with this though is that a handheld camera is a far cry from a flatbed scanner. Holding your phone perfectly level isn’t easy, even if you can pull it off, it’s still a hassle.
Enter Genius Scan. With this app you can quickly snap a shot of any document without really thinking about how properly aligned it is on your screen.Genius Scan will automatically detect the edges of the document and allow you to quickly skew the perspective so that you get a perfect shot every time.You can save your documents as a PDF or JPG and even share them over Wifi for quick access from any computer.

3. Measure Almost Anything



You’ve seen measuring apps that simply place a ruler on your screen, which are great if you need to measure anything less than a few inches, but what if you want to measure an entire person or even a tree? For this feat you’ll need something more. Aim@ is a $0.99 application that pulls this seemingly impossible task off pretty well. By telling the app how tall you are and holding your phone at arm’s length, you can use your phone’s camera and a series of taps at strategic points to make approximate measurements.
I’ll warn you in advance, this app does work, but it’s a little quirky. If you’re not good at following directions, you’ll never get it to work. If you are reasonably patient, the app walks you through the specific processes for taking the height and width of an object, or even the distance from you to it. In my tests, when I didn’t screw up, I usually came within an inch or two of the actual size of the object.

4. Take 3d Photos



This is another app that sounds like it’s more gimmick than reality, but it actually works! In fact, the technology really isn’t that amazing if you think about it. Your two eyes work together to help you perceive depth. By taking two photographs at slightly different positions, you can mimic this functionality. 3D Camera does exactly that. You take one photo, move over a few inches, snap another, then combine them to create a three-dimensional illusion.
3D Camera gives you three different options for viewing the resulting 3D image. The first is an anaglyph, which you can view with your typical cheap pair of red/cyan 3D glasses, a stereogram, which works just like the old Magic Eye images (no glasses necessary), and a wigglegram, which simply changes from one image to the next quickly to simulate a 3D effect.

these apps are available on other platforms as well (Android or windows phones) but original article is only related with iphone .

بال رنگنا غیر شرعی

لکھنئو ( مانیٹرنگ ڈیسک )دارلعلوم دیو بند نے بالے رنگنا غیر شرعی قراردیدیا ہے

بال کو رنگ کرنے کیخلاف فتویٰ جاری کرتے ہوئے دارالعلوم کے مفتیان نے واضح کیا ہے کہ شرعی طور پر مہندی لگانا جائز ہے ۔ اس سے بال سرخی مائل ہونے سے کوئی فرق نہیں پڑتا لیکن بال کالے کرنے یا رنگنے کیلئے کیمیکل یا کوئی ایس ہیڈائی استعمال کرنے مناسب نہیں جس کی تہہ بالوں پر جم جاتی ہے ۔ فتوے میں وضاھت کی گئی ہے کہ جب بالوں پر کیمیکل یا رنگ لگتا ہے تو اس کی تہہ بن جاتی ہے ۔ اسس تہہ کی وجہ سے بالوں کا وضو درست نہیں ہوتا کیونکہ پانی بالوں کی جڑوں و تہہ تک نہیں پہنچ پاتا ۔اس سوال پر کہ جب بال رنگنا شرعی طور درست نہیں تو اس کانماز پر کیا اثر پڑتا ہے جس کے جواب میں واضھ کیا گیا ہے کہ جب وضو ہی بے اثر اور نامکمل ہوا تو نماز کیسے مکمل کہا جائے گا جبکہ وضو کے بغیر نماز ہوتی ہی نہیں ۔

http://www.dailypakistan.com.pk/dail...Dec-2012/31393

گڑیاں

شادی کے دن نئی نویلی دلہن نے ایک اٹیچی کیس کی طرف اشارہ کرتے ہوئے اپنے شوہر سے وعدہ لیا کہ وہ اس اٹیچی کیس کو کبھی نہیں کھولے گا۔ شوہر نے وعدہ کر لیا۔
شادی کے پچاسویں سال بیوی جب بسترمرگ پر پڑ گئی تو خاوند نے اسے اٹیچی کیس یاد دلایا۔
بیوی بولی : " اب یہ وقت ہے اس اٹیچی کیس کے راز کو افشا کرنے کا۔ اب آپ اس اٹیچی کیس کو کھول لیں۔"
خاوند نے اٹیچی کیس کھولا تو اس میں سے دو گڑیاں اور ایک لاکھ روپے نکلے۔
خاوند کے پوچھنے پر بیوی بولی “میری ماں نے مجھے کامیاب شادی کا راز بتاتے ہوئے نصیحت کی تھی کہ غصہ پی جانا بہت ہی اچھا ہے۔ اسکے ماں نے مجھے طریقہ بتایا تھا کہ جب بھی اپنے خاوند کی کسی غلط بات پر غصہ آئے تو تم بجائے خاوند پر غصہ نکالنے کی بجائے ایک گڑیا سی لیا کرنا”۔
تو مجھے جب بھی آپ کی کسی غلط بات پر غصہ آیا میں نے گڑیا سی لی
خاوند دو گڑیاں دیکھ کر بہت خوش ہوا کہ اس نے اپنی بیوی کو کتنا خوش رکھا ہوا ہے کیونکہ بیوی نے پچاس سال کی کامیاب ازدواجی زندگی میں صرف دو گڑیاں ہی بنائی تھیں۔

خاوند نے تجسس سے اٹیچی میں موجود ایک لاکھ روپوں کے بارے میں پوچھا تو بیوی بولی
“یہ ایک لاکھ روپے میں نے گڑیاں بیچ بیچ کر اکٹھے کیے ہیں”۔

List of websites that can be useful for anyone

The 101 Most Useful Websites
These sites solve at least one problem really well and they all have simple web addresses
(URLs) that you can easily memorize thus saving a trip to Google.



1. screenr.com – record movies of your desktop and send them straight to YouTube.
2. ctrlq.org/screenshots – for capturing screenshots of web pages on mobile and desktops.
3. goo.gl – shorten long URLs and convert URLs into QR codes.
4. unfurlr.com – find the original URL that's hiding behind a short URL.
5. qClock – find the local time of a city using a Google Map.
6. copypastecharacter.com – copy special characters that aren't on your keyboard.
7. postpost.com – a better search engine for twitter.
8. lovelycharts.com – create flowcharts, network diagrams, sitemaps, etc.
9. iconfinder.com – the best place to find icons of all sizes.
10. office.com – download templates, clipart and images for your Office documents.
11. followupthen.com – the easiest way to setup email reminders.
12. jotti.org – scan any suspicious file or email attachment for viruses.
13. wolframalpha.com – gets answers directly without searching - see more wolfram tips.
14. printwhatyoulike.com – print web pages without the clutter.
15. joliprint.com – reformats news articles and blog content as a newspaper.
16. ctrql.org/rss – a search engine for RSS feeds.
17. e.ggtimer.com – a simple online timer for your daily needs.
18. coralcdn.org – if a site is down due to heavy traffic, try accessing it through coral CDN.
19. random.org – pick random numbers, flip coins, and more.
20. pdfescape.com – lets you can quickly edit PDFs in the browser itself.
21. viewer.zoho.com – Preview PDFs and Presentations directly in the browser.
22. tubemogul.com – simultaneously upload videos to YouTube and other video sites.
23. dabbleboard.com – your virtual whiteboard.
24. scr.im – share you email address online without worrying about spam.
25. spypig.com – now get read receipts for your email.
26. sizeasy.com – visualize and compare the size of any product.
27. myfonts.com/WhatTheFont – quickly determine the font name from an image.
28. google.com/webfonts – a good collection of open source fonts.
29. regex.info – find data hidden in your photographs – see more EXIF tools.
30. livestream.com – broadcast events live over the web, including your desktop screen.
31. iwantmyname.com – helps you search domains across all TLDs.
32. homestyler.com – design from scratch or re-model your home in 3d.
33. join.me – share you screen with anyone over the web.
34. onlineocr.net – recognize text from scanned PDFs - see other OCR tools.
35. flightstats.com - Track flight status at airports worldwide.
36. wetransfer.com – for sharing really big files online.
37. hundredzeros.com – best-sellers on all subjects that you can download for free.
38. polishmywriting.com – check your writing for spelling or grammatical errors.
39. marker.to – easily highlight the important parts of a web page for sharing.
40. typewith.me – work on the same document with multiple people.
41. whichdateworks.com – planning an event? find a date that works for all.
42. everytimezone.com – a less confusing view of the world time zones.
43. gtmetrix.com – the perfect tool for measuring your site performance online.
44. noteflight.com – print music sheets, write your own music online (review).
45. imo.im - chat with your buddies on Skype, Facebook, Google Talk, etc. from one place.
46. translate.google.com – translate web pages, PDFs and Office documents.
47. kleki.com – create paintings and sketches with a wide variety of brushes.
48. similarsites.com – discover new sites that are similar to what you like already.
49. wordle.net – quick summarize long pieces of text with tag clouds.
50. bubbl.us – create mind-maps, brainstorm ideas in the browser.
51. kuler.adobe.com – get color ideas, also extract colors from photographs.
52. liveshare.com – share your photos in an album instantly.
53. lmgtfy.com – when your friends are too lazy to use Google on their own.
54. midomi.com – when you need to find the name of a song.
55. bing.com/images – automatically find perfectly-sized wallpapers for mobiles.
56. faxzero.com – send an online fax for free – see more fax services.
57. feedmyinbox.com – get RSS feeds as an email newsletter.
58. ge.tt – quickly send a file to someone, they can even preview it before downloading.
59. pipebytes.com – transfer files of any size without uploading to a third-party server.
60. tinychat.com – setup a private chat room in micro-seconds.
61. privnote.com – create text notes that will self-destruct after being read.
62. boxoh.com – track the status of any shipment on Google Maps – alternative.
63. chipin.com – when you need to raise funds online for an event or a cause.
64. downforeveryoneorjustme.com – find if your favorite website is offline or not?
65. ewhois.com – find the other websites of a person with reverse Analytics lookup.
66. whoishostingthis.com – find the web host of any website.
67. google.com/history – found something on Google but can't remember it now?
68. aviary.com/myna – an online audio editor that lets record, and remix audio clips online.
69. disposablewebpage.com – create a temporary web page that self-destruct.
70. urbandictionary.com – find definitions of slangs and informal words.
71. seatguru.com – consult this site before choosing a seat for your next flight.
72. sxc.hu – download stock images absolutely free.
73. zoom.it – view very high-resolution images in your browser without scrolling.
74. scribblemaps.com – quickly create custom Google Maps online.
75. alertful.com – quickly setup email reminders for important events.
76. picmonkey.com – Picnik is offline but PicMonkey is an even better image editor.
77. formspring.me – you can ask or answer personal questions here.
78. sumopaint.com – an excellent layer-based online image editor.
79. snopes.com – find if that email offer you received is real or just another scam.
80. typingweb.com – master touch-typing with these practice sessions.
81. mailvu.com – send video emails to anyone using your web cam.
82. timerime.com – create timelines with audio, video and images.
83. stupeflix.com – make a movie out of your images, audio and video clips.
84. safeweb.norton.com – check the trust level of any website.
85. teuxdeux.com – a beautiful to-do app that looks like your paper dairy.

86. deadurl.com – you'll need this when your bookmarked web pages are deleted.87. minutes.io – quickly capture effective notes during meetings.
88. youtube.com/leanback – Watch YouTube channels in TV mode.
89. youtube.com/disco – quickly create a video playlist of your favorite artist.
90. talltweets.com – Send tweets longer than 140 characters.
91. pancake.io – create a free and simple website using your Dropbox account.
92. builtwith.com – find the technology stack of any website.
93. woorank.com – research a website from the SEO perspective.
94. mixlr.com – broadcast live audio over the web.
95. radbox.me – bookmark online videos and watch them later (review).
96. tagmydoc.com – add QR codes to your documents and presentations (review).
97. notes.io – the easiest way to write short text notes in the browser.
98. ctrlq.org/html-mail – send rich-text mails to anyone, anonymously.
99. fiverr.com – hire people to do little things for $5.
100. otixo.com – easily manage your online files on Dropbox, Google Docs, etc.
101.ifttt.com – create a connection between all your online accounts.