Friday, November 23, 2012

How to Celebrate The Joy of Everyday

Every day brings fresh happenings, unique situations and circumstances to those who look at the world with new eyes. Every day carries with it many opportunities to find and to create joy, so long as this is the outcome that you seek.

A gentleman in a store asked me the other day how the day was going for me. I provided a one-word answer - "perfect". A look of surprise came over his face and then he admitted that I was the first person who had provided that answer in the two year period that he had asked the same rhetorical question of every customer who stood on the opposite side of his counter.

Apparently most people respond that their day is pretty average, so-so or in fact pretty awful. Few people state that their day is going well, let alone that it is great or perfect. Don't you find that sad?

An octogenarian friend whom I admire greatly often quips, "If you're not having fun it's your own fault". Some people work their way through life with endless curiosity, humor and enthusiasm whilst others sadly do not. Living with an attitude of childlike wonder and joy makes life so much better in very many ways; it's more fun, more enjoyable and a whole lot easier on the mind and body.

The people who have this light and bright attitude do always acknowledge that their attitude is their own choice. They recognize that they have chosen to view their world in this way. In contrast, those who have a bleaker outlook on life tend to believe that they do not have a choice in this matter, that life has thrown them a tough, difficult or unfair hand.

Once you realize that you do have a choice in how you view circumstances, irrespective of how good or bad those circumstances happen to be, you will find that a huge weight is simultaneously lifted from your shoulders. You immediately step out from beneath black and threatening clouds and instead find that you can see blue sky and bright sunlight.

Happiness comes from within. Happiness does not derive from circumstances or events; rather, it comes from choosing to see your world in a relaxed, comfortable and positive manner. In choosing to take responsibility for the way in which you think, you free yourself to enjoy the inherent beauty of your world.

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Do you think you have a choice in how you see your world? Or do you feel that you are restricted by difficult circumstances?

Tips for Brides to Avoid Stress and Enjoy the Wedding Planning Experience

Here are a few tips to keep you feeling good and to help you actually enjoy the process of planning your wedding.

If you’re like most brides, you’re busy planning your wedding with little or no help from anyone else. Those who are caught up in wedding plans can often get sidetracked and can become stressed out in the entire process. The result? A stressed out, frazzled bride who isn’t having much fun. Instead, try a few tips to keep you feeling good and to help you actually enjoy the process of planning your wedding.

Slow Down – Most brides take off running as soon as they get engaged. It’s a good idea to take a step back and take a deep breath. You don’t need to be planning your wedding every minute of every day. By slowing down you’ll be able to see what you’re doing, become more organized, and actually enjoy the planning process.

Get Help – No, you don’t need to do everything yourself. One mistake many brides make is thinking that they must have a hand in each and every item on their wedding planning list. Instead, get some help. Delegate some of the tasks to others and allow them to handle their tasks without interference. This will help you prepare for the wedding without extra stress.

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff – Some brides get caught up in the small details of the wedding. Remember that some decisions really don’t matter all that much. Don’t dwell on the little details and keep in mind the details that are most important. As the bride you’ll need to be able to let some of the decisions go and don’t worry about the small things.

Keep the Big Picture in Mind – Remember that the process itself is part of the fun of the wedding experience. After all, for all the months of planning, the wedding itself will be over in a matter of a few short hours. You’ll be happier throughout the process if you can enjoy the experience of planning the event.

Don’t become a Bridezilla – Nobody likes a crazy bride. Avoid becoming a bridezilla by taking things less seriously. If you find yourself slipping into this stage it’s time to step back and do something to relax. Take a day off from planning and do something else. Have some fun with your fiancé that doesn’t revolve around planning the wedding.

Stay Organized – If you stay organized you’ll have a much easier planning time and therefore a better experience. Keep a notebook and calendar with all the information you need in one place. Use a timeline to keep you on track.

Relax – Finally, it’s important to stay relaxed. When you’re tense and nervous you won’t be enjoying yourself. Take bubble baths, get regular massages, exercise, and do fun activities that you enjoy. When you find yourself getting too stressed out do something to help relax and release the pressure you’re feeling. Ask your best friend to help you recognize when you’re getting too stressed out so you can take some time to renew yourself.

How To Improve Your Time Management Skills Using 5 Simple Tips

If you always find yourself late for work, school or an appointment - or you often fail to finish your tasks - then you need to learn how to improve your time management skills.
It’s not that hard, although it might seem that way at first. Habits can be tough to break; but if you stick to your regimen for at least 21 days, then you have a good chance of developing a new habit: one that makes sure you’re always on time.
Learn how to manage your time better using these 5 simple tips below:

Tip # 1: Schedule Your Day.
If you want to learn how to improve your time management skills, then you need to have a concrete schedule for the day. Don’t get out of bed thinking that you’ll just wing it, because it often leads to a lot of time wastage.
It would be best to schedule and plan your tasks the night before, because your subconscious mind will help process their fulfillment while you're sleeping.

Tip # 2: Create A Check List.
If you have deadlines coming up, then you need to create a list arranged according to priority. This helps keep you on track and even encourages you to do more as fast as possible. There’s nothing like a list to keep you motivated and pressured to do your job.

Tip # 3: Do Everything Faster.
I know this sounds like something your irrational boss would say, but doing things faster is quite a legitimate solution to manage your time effectively.
Cooking breakfast, for example, can be done a lot faster if you’ve prepared the meal the night before. Getting to work might also be done faster if you stopped to refill the fuel in your tank on your way home from work.

Tip # 4: Stop Wasting Time.
Spacing out for even just five minutes is a waste of time. Not taking a shortcut is also a waste of time. If you want to learn how to improve your time management skills, then you need to cut down on the activities that aren’t related to work.
Chatting with your co-workers is fine; but perhaps you need to cut down on that too, especially if you have a deadline to meet.

Tip # 5: Learn To Multi-task.
Multi-tasking is not always advisable, especially if the tasks you’re doing need your full concentration. In smaller tasks, however, I’m sure you can do more than one thing at a time. Want some examples?
How about reading a book while waiting for the food you're cooking to boil? Cleaning your room while talking to your parents is another way you can multi-task. And perhaps one of the best multi-tasking activities you can do is listening to motivational CDs while driving your car.
You probably didn't have any lessons on how to improve your time management skills when you were still studying in school. There might have been seminars, yes, but it is from experience that you really learn how to make good use of your time.

If you always find yourself late for work, school or an appointment - or you often fail to finish your tasks - then you need to learn how to improve your time management skills. This article shows you how.

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Report on “Women in Pakistan IT Industry” Unveiled

Pakistan Software Houses Association (P@SHA) today unveiled its research report on working women in Pakistan IT industry, in a press conference held in Karachi.

The research is based on responses from 50 companies and 125 individuals – it targeted IT companies as well as large IT departments within non-IT companies.

Research report revealed that women account for 14% of the IT workforce, of which 37% are at the mid-career level while 13% are in Senior Management positions.

The data also pointed towards the presence of the infamous glass ceiling. Despite years of experience a large proportion of the women has been unable to move beyond mid-level positions.

Another observation was the significantly low number of women who hold more than seven years of work experience under their belt. This stunted retention can be attributed to the ‘leaky pipeline effect’, whereby life events force women’s careers to often take a back seat.

In the context of HR policies and practices, a majority of women were satisfied with their work environment. While paid maternity leave, flexible hours and emergency leave were the most commonly offered benefits – there were still some companies who failed to incorporate paid maternity leave (a basic HR benefit worldwide) in their package.

The participants complained about long hours and recommended flexible and shorter work timings, transportation and day care facilities.

One gap identified was the lack of training and mentoring programs. Most of the polled companies did not extend such opportunities to female employees, despite their proven effectiveness in enhancing the abilities of employees.

Women reported that they did not feel undervalued in comparison to male counterparts but wished to see a reduction in gender stereotyping of IT roles.

Jehan Ara, president PASHA, encapsulated the motivation behind the initiative by saying that participation of women in the workforce has been shown to have positive effects on a nation’s economy.

“We aimed to not only get real facts and figures on women’s participation in IT but also aimed to explore the extent to which women are enabled and equipped to succeed in IT.

We explored key reasons which may also prevent new entries into the IT field, as well as factors affecting women’s growth. We hope that this report can be a first step towards gaining visibility for the critical roles that women play in this otherwise male-dominated industry”, noted Jehan Ara.
Nadeem Elahi, Chairman PASHA, present at the occasion talked about the growth of the Pakistan IT industry in the face of domestic and international challenges. Nausheen Ishtiaq, Research Associate, was also present at the press conference.

You can download the report by clicking this link. (PDF File – 3.49 MB)

The country’s IT industry is generating an estimated $2.8 billion in revenue (excluding the retail segment), making up 1.2% of the GDP. He said that buoyed by improved policies and support, this figure could easily be pushed to $10 billion mark.